If you’re dealing with the same sins everyday – you need to change something. You need to get serious and find out what it is that is keeping you locked into this pattern! Think about it: what if, every single day, a big, nasty dog came and peed on your front door, sat outside and barked his head off at your cat (who’s sitting in the window minding her own business) dug a foot deep hole in your yard, and then left 2 or 3 “piles” in your grass? What would you do?? Just put up with it? Moan a little about how bad it is that this happens everyday? Or find some way to make it STOP!!
So, what is it that is keeping you locked into these sins? Is it just fleshly laziness, demonic attachment – or both?
Let’s say you find yourself in a constant state of getting angry. Not just once in a while – whenever someone crosses you, whenever a driver does something you don’t like, whenever you have to do anything that inconveniences you. You finally realize that you don’t like yourself very much this way – but you just can’t seem to get a handle on it all for very long, hard as you try. How do you know how to approach this, how to determine why you are gaining no Victory over this even though you are a committed Believer?
First and foremost, you need to understand and agree that sin is sin is sin – it doesn’t matter if it’s “a slip of the tongue” or becomes what we like to term an “addiction”. It doesn’t matter if it’s a simple thing like losing your temper, or a more serious thing like pornography – it is ALL disobedience to God’s way, which is the Way of Love.
Anger hurts you, your family, your friends and of course, the God Who loves you. It creates in your own body effects on your nervous system which can lead to stiffened arteries and even heart attack. It affects other people at first emotionally and eventually physically. You actually are sending spiritual “javelins” into the heart of a person when you grow angry with them and throw hurtful words their way. This can become even more detrimental to them than if you were literally striking them with your fists. And then, there comes the point where fists DO get involved in uncontrolled anger…
I grew up with a very angry father. You never knew when he was going to explode into a fit of anger, never knew what you were going to say or do that would egg him into a loud, yelling harangue that would last 15, 20 minutes or more. And then continue after he had left the room long enough to think of all the things he hadn’t yet said, and return to pour them out, too. You see, he never learned to calmly air his hurts and frustrations one at a time as they came along – but rather would bottle it all up for days until it finally blew the top off his ability to hold it in anymore.
As much as I longed to become the patient, sweet, phlegmatic woman my Mother was – by the time I had had 5 children, I found my father “speaking out of my mouth” far more often than my Mom. And I just couldn’t get a handle on it. No matter how much it alarmed me – once I got “tried” to the top of my patience, the anger took over and out flew the flaming swords of ugly words.
I finally became desperate. I believe this was the first step. The Lord had led me to the very end of myself – it was either get rid of this problem once and for all, or wander far away from the God I loved. I chose the former!
What He led me to do was to look up (Google is great for this) ALL of the Scriptures that speak of anger. The list generated both the bad effects and the good effects of holding your tongue/anger. I copied them onto small pieces of paper – like a Post-it Note – and taped them ALL over my house. EVERYWHERE I would normally cast my eyes: the kitchen cabinets, the TV, the bathroom mirrors, my dresser mirror, the doors and windows… Anywhere I would see them throughout my day. And praying always for the Lord’s help, whenever I saw one, I stopped what I was doing long enough to stand there and read it through and quickly ask the Lord to imprint that message on my heart.
Walk with me through what this looked like in daily life then. Okay – say I blew it – screamed at one of the kids and told them things I had no business saying. Once I realized what was happening, I would go off by myself (I was usually still worked up enough that apologizing wouldn’t have gone over so well yet…) I would get my full list of Scriptures in front of me and spent some serious time thinking about how this all not only affected the kids – but affected the Lord. I would think about how much He loved me, how He DIED ON THE CROSS to pay for my sin of anger/swearing. This wasn’t to produce guilt as much as remind me that my attitude towards sin had to get more serious.
I would then pray earnestly and ask the Lord to forgive me and to STOP DOING THIS. Every time I would slip. You can’t just sit down and give up! You have to stop right there – one look at a child’s face would usually accomplish that. Tell Him you’re really sorry. Get determined in your heart that you will try even harder – get back up and start over. HE IS RIGHT THERE WITH YOU! HE wants you to succeed!! Then, of course, I would go make it right again with the child I offended…
The other thing that made this sin problem even worse was the presence of demons. You see, if you open the door for them just a crack in sin – they will pry and pry until they get through – and then invite a whole host of more in, too. Now you’re fighting yourself as well as their influence. I didn’t know about that so much back then – and thankfully, the Lord had mercy on me and cleared me anyway. Thankfully, we now also have the Binding Prayer to help us with this.
One of the first and most deadly things the demons do with us is make us blind to how Jesus sees our sin. He ISN’T condemning us for it, like they do. But it does sadden Him when we don’t put our “shoulders to the plow” and do our best to gain victory, when we don’t give this weakness up to Him over and over and over again, at least trying to get the upper hand on it.
Yes, I completely understand. Your sin may be very difficult to stop, to give up. You may be struggling terribly. But…have you struggled as unto death yet, like Jesus? Like many of the apostles? No… He never said it would be easy. He’s only assured us that He is with us, and will help us through it all, no matter how hard or long it is.
Don’t give up. Don’t sit back and let the demons convince you that you “can’t do it”. Hugs, Dear Ones. Trusting in Jesus, you CAN do this!!
Wonderful. Please keep these coming.
Tackling that SIN PROBLEM for real
Romans 2:4 Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?
We are motivated to stop sinning, when, we understand that the Goodness of God and His Love for us, is so Great that, He did all the work for us including the suffering. This knowledge if, we truly believe, causes us to desire, to change our thinking ( repent ) and follow His leading. Wanting to be a better person. ( ponder this)
2 Timothy 2:26
And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will. ( to do this we need to receive Life, from Christ Jesus )
Romans 8;2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.
( Releasing us from the power of the devil we are free to choose to walk after the Spirit and stop sinning……. by nipping it, in the bud);
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
We all have 3 voices in our head; one that tempts us, one that encourages us, and one that reasons each of these out ( that’s ours) as we generate no “original thoughts” of our own, we reason and then, bring that thought into our heart to entertain, build on, make it mine. ( others original thoughts, satan or Gods)
Example; we only can focus or build on but, one (voice or thought), at a time. If we choose to focus our imagination on Heavenly things our thoughts will flow ( build) in those good thoughts / we cannot imagine hellish things unless; we first stop thinking about the heavenly and turn away from it, to think on, (focus or build on), thoughts of the hellish, “Go ahead try it”, they oppose each other completely. There is no darkness in Heaven and no light in hell. (we must actually change our thinking, completely)
If we focus on what we want , we cannot see or focus on what, we don’t want….always by our choosing.
1 Cor 10 :5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
If we choose to build on a thought we take it from our head to our heart and imagine more about it, thus building on it with more, new original thoughts from the originator of our choosing. Therefore to “nipp a thought in the bud”, we would take each thought captive, as we receive it in our head, and ask who sent this thought, and do I choose, to receive it into my heart, to build on?
If it is a good work or virtuous thought then, run with it, build it in to a mansion in your heart, and it will become part of who you are!
If the captive thought is unsavory, cast it out in Jesus name. and satan will flee from you, “your choice”,……. this is nipping it in the Bud…. stage !
We are guarding the temple of God, and as the gate keepers, “we” are to cast out dark thoughts. Know that we are building a House somewhere for eternity, our free will is choosing ……”where” 🙂
We can trust Gods word because He cannot tell a lie, so by “Faith”, just take Him at His word. It’s important to go to Him, just as we are because, we will never be, as we should be….. Don’t delay!
As we are born again, we are a new creature in Christ Jesus. Our old man was crucified with Jesus on the cross, therefore; he is dead and gone with all his sin nature. Should we get looking back, we will see some of his old shoes and clothing still tucked away in the closets,( of our minds) but we should not bother to try them on, just lay them at Jesus feet and step away, thanking Jesus for taking this burden away from us and continue looking forward to what, Jesus is doing with us and saying to us today. No looking back ( should we get depressed) for those old comfort zones, “we are brand NEW” ! …….Alive to our future life, with Christ Jesus ! 🙂
(this is Carol)
Your old man is trying to resurface, and the demons are really helping it along.
YOU must control the willful sinning – but the Lord has provided a way. Cry out to Him to give you strength and determination. USE the Binding Prayer DAILY – twice a day if need be. Perpetual confession of the times you fall cleanse you and make you more mindful of repeating things… Perpetual binding and casting off demons helps to keep the “air” clear of them…